Nowadays, many couples recognize the problems with their love and try to mend their marriage but do not know some simple following issues.

How many years of love between husband and wife, no matter how deep and passionate they used to be, over time living together without knowing how to build, not knowing how to cultivate to keep that passion forever, over time the emotions will also fade.

Because it’s as simple as this, guys!

Think of a hunger pang, if you don’t eat all day, you will be very hungry, and when you meet food, you will eat it until you can’t eat anymore. But that feeling of fullness does not last forever, the body will digest food, and create energy to feed the body, then you feel hungry again, and must continue eating….

The same goes for feelings, today you love that person deeply, and emotions are overflowing, but those strong feelings will have to return to normal because if you stay like this forever, you will not be able to concentrate on the work. Another thing in life, however, is a positive emotion that needs to be nurtured on a regular basis because otherwise it too will die. Emotions are created from daily interactions, from your care and concern for the other person, and vice versa.

Distinguish carefully, acts of love and acts of responsibility. During the counseling process, when the client insisted, they did a good job building the couple’s relationship, they still take care of each other every day, but why is the relationship getting worse and worse, they don’t feel the love for each other. So, I asked her to write down a list of things she still does, including cooking for the family, preparing clothes, making orange juice, taking each other to work, helping the other do the things they ask and want… Yes, those actions are caring but it’s almost a responsibility everyone’s responsibility to maintain a family, almost everyone does such jobs because they are indispensable for family life.

So, what else do we ask for? They have done enough and are very well!

However, it is not the action group that creates the feeling of love. The emotion hides deep inside each person, and it needs to be evoked correctly with its own language, this is not the same for everyone. There are 5 love languages ​​that Dr. Gary Chapman has diligently researched and synthesized, in each person, there may be one or several basic love languages:

• words of affirmation (Compliments, recognition, expressions of love…)
• quality time (It is the time when two people really interact, pay attention, and care about the other’s feelings, stories…)
• receiving gifts
• acts of service (Voluntarily doing for the other person things you know they will appreciate, will feel cared for and happy because of it…)
• physical touch (Hugs, kisses, holding hands, caressing…)

The language of love will be different for each person, so there are times when you care and care but without understanding, it is difficult for you to touch the feelings of your other half, or maybe you don’t have it yourself. understanding and knowing exactly what your love language is. When you know the love language of yourself and your partner, you will easily activate the emotional switch, giving each other the feeling of being loved, and know how to mend your marriage appropriately. Just like when eating, a dish that doesn’t suit your taste can still be eaten, but if you can eat a favorite dish, your emotions will be much happier!

In fact, when feeling that the couple’s relationship is getting worse, (this article does not refer to the case of a third person), women often think of the following two reasons:

• Firstly, because of financial instability.

• The second is because sexual intercourse is not harmonious.

For the first reason, they are often helpless and let it go, they think that when their financial life is more stable, everything will be better, however, broken marriages happen in even financially wealthy families. very good, very solid, this is not uncommon, even billionaires will still divorce. And of course, this is not a reason for feelings not to be built.

Regarding the second reason, the wife will find a way to change and fix it by buying lingerie, putting on more perfume, taking a few more skill courses, being more open, and many people are even nervous because it’s real. I have no need…! Sex is a gift, a reward of a good relationship, of sublimation in love, in emotions, and we will receive it when we know how to build our feelings. It is not the factor to create the sense of love, it is the result!

So, when you realize that your relationship is having missing needs, feel your emotions are fading, feel bored with each other, and see frustrations and discomforts happening more often, take a look at your marriage again. Let’s see how long it’s been since our love language has not been activated, and whether the other person feels complete and happy when living with us, believe that when we understand ourselves, we truly understand each other, and feel the love and happiness!

To learn more about how to mend your marriage, you can refer to the program “Mend The Marriage” by expert Brad Browning. CLICK HERE TO READ THE REVIEW